I've had a hard time accepting the risks of HIV transmission. Gradually though, I've become more relaxed. Over Christmas I met someone, and we have fooled around on 4 separate occasions, though he has never ejaculated near my mouth and we have never done anal, though no condoms have been used for oral and we have also been kissing a lot. Yum.
Reading this back, it does sound quite risky to me, but I would like a second opinion. The other guy is only 21, yet is more experienced with sex than I. Now it is getting to the 'cold light of day' period, I'm starting to realise I might have been overly foolish. I'm usually very careful though, so much so this is my first ever experience of sexual relations at the age of 26, as I started to get very tired of my anxiety and worry and pictured myself single and covered in cobwebs if I didn't bite the bullet.
I am planning on taking a HIV test soon, though I know I have to wait 3 months on the NHS since my last episode. I hope this changes soon, it seems quite ridiculous!
Also, I have a tight foreskin, and the other day the guy pulled it back a bit too hard causing pain and a slight tear, though no blood or clear cut was seen. I'm working on stretching it myself. Should I be worried about this?
I sincerely hope this does not sound TOO risky, I have been safe with regards to ejaculation and anal sex, which I am reserving for a full on committed relationship, which I believe is not a bad standard to set. All my research has shown that ejaculation into the mouth from an HIV+ person is still a relatively low risk situation to be in, and even then, this did not happen with me.
I've had a great few weeks with this guy, thankyou for helping me before with my anxiety on previous encounters, though there have only been 2, your service has helped me have a great few weeks with a great guy. Finally!
I think you're fine - all sounds completely innocent to me - long may it continue.
I would suggest:-
1) seeing someone about that foreskin
2) making sure you have Hep A and B immunisations done
3) relaxing further and enjoying Mr X
4) when you do have anal sex then plenty of water or silicone based lube and condoms