If I may I would like to give you a brief background to my concerns. I had a vasectomy 1 years ago it has actually taken 1 year to get the all clear. On getting the all clear I had unprotected sex with my wife, 1 week later she complained about having very sore thrush and suggested I may have passed this on during our intercourse. She advised we should both take a pill to get rid of this thrush which we both did. This has made no difference to my wife and she is still very sore although she is at this point assuming that the pill did not work and she is waiting for 1 week to take antoher one. I am in turn now thinking that I have a slight pain at the tip of my penis and it does look a little redder than normal.
Meanwhile I am now extremely worried that it may in actual fact be something else because I had on 3 sexual encounters occasions with other people during this 1 year period when my wife and I were sexually unactive (stupid of course). I was very cautious and at no point did I have unprotected sex (vaginal or oral) with any of these people however mutual masturbation was performed. Is there a possibility that infected vaginal fluid, which may have come in contact with the tip of my penis, could have passed on an STI? If so then what could this be given that 7 days after having sex with my wife she has thrush like symptoms?
I live in the far north of scotland and cant come and see you which is the great thing about this forum, I am considering getting a home sti kit sent to me.
Hello G,
Thank you very much for your post and welcome to our forum.
It is possible that the symptoms described (in your wife and yourself) could be related with a sexually transmitted infection. Therefore it would certainly be a good idea for you to get tested. There is a comprehensive PCR test that can detect up to seven different STIs, including Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Mycoplasma, Ureaplasma, Gardnerella, Trichomona and Herpes, from a single urine sample. This is what I would recommend that you do; it can be done by post as well. It is important for you to know in case you and your wife need treating. Also I would like to add that it might not even be related to your extra-marital incidents; lots of women can contract bacterial vaginosis (usually caused by Gardenerella), which is not usually sexually transmitted (even though it can be transmitted sexually) and might be the cause of your wife's symptoms.
In any case, doing the test that I mentioned would be a good idea.
Best wishes,
José
Thanks for your reply. I have since my first post, received and posted back a sample kit from an online vendor ********. This is a 5 test sample, you mention 7 stis do you believe I should undertake further testing even if the tests come back negative?
I guess I am a little surprised that mutual masturbation can lead to possible infection, I thought I was being careful but clearly not can you kindly expand your intial repsonse to clarify the risks of stis from mutual masturbation?
Also I was wondering do thrush symptoms often not clear up with a first dose of medication? Could this still just be a bad case of thrush broought on by intercourse? I have never heard of gardenerella.
I'm not sure that Jose was necessarily implying that mutual mastrubation was particularly risky.
It is clear though that something is going on and your wife may be correct and she may have an aggresive form of thrush.
Equally, as Jose says, there are a variety of different organisms including anaerobic ones such as gardnarella and bacterial vaginosis which are common in females and are not necessarily sexually transmitted.
It may be that if you have smeared vaginal fluids on your penis during one of your episodes then you might - just might have acquired an STD. In addition, if you have been having sexual encounters outside your relationship then obviously it is entirely possible your wife may have as well.
Consequently, Jose's point was perhaps rather than try and second guess the issue then comprehensive testing may be appropriate. The test you have had sounds reassuring but equally perhaps your wife should be tested too.
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