I have a huge anxiety of HIV which really controls my life.
On Saturday I met a guy and before we did anything I asked him his status which he said was negative (I know you cant go on what someone tells you)
I do not have anal sex unless I am in a relationship but with this guy on Saturday he came over mine and we performed oral sex. I sucked him and he sucked me, there wasn't any precum. I then cum on his stomach and he cum, What is worrying my is that some of his cum may have got on my arse. I wiped some off my bum cheek which doesn't worry me. But after he left I went to the toilet and was a bit constipated and when I went to the toilet when I looked there was what looked like cum with the stool, this could have been mucus from my rectum but I dont know. It could have been cum near my arsehole. I also am a bit worried as I used some hair removal cream on my arse and this had made it somewhat irritated and if cum got near that.
I know his penis didnt enter my arse at all.
I am considering getting the post 7 day test as I am really worried.
It doesn't sound as though anything risky happened at all - rather it sounds as though you are being super sensitive to any possibility of risk. I certainly would not recommend HIV testing on an urgent basis.
If you didn't have anal sex - as you are very clear about - then the mucus etc which emerged from your bottom cannot be semen. It is as you say, going to be due to cosntipaed poo moving out from your rectum.
You know me and you know how I get worked up about things
How about if the poo did get on my arse and then I wiped my arse and I pushed some inside as I wiped. How far does the cum need to get inside when it becomes a problem? Are we talking
deep inside? I am definite we didn't have anal sex.
I agree with my colleague Sean Cummings.
There is no risk at all if there is no anal penetration. Therefore there is no need to worry about this. No need to have PEP, and no need of testing.