Just over 4 weeks ago I had unprotected vaginal sex with a 24 year old girl in the UK. It was a drunken error of judgement and we stopped after a short amount of time due to us both realising it wasn't a good idea.
She is a friend of mine, and told me that there was no need to worry as she had 'recently' been tested and didn't have anything. I did not specifically ask her if she had been tested for HIV, as I felt bad asking her.
After sex, she did perform Oral on me, but I understand this holds little to no risk.
I think she had just finished her period that day, as I'm sure she popped to the loo to remove a tampon before we began, and after we had finished I noticed a small amount of dark looking blood on the sheets. I had no visible signs of blood on my penis, but she had masturbated me and performed oral after sex so this may be why. Sorry to be so graphic.
I am a worrier, and have been worried sick about this incident since. Although having no symptoms, after 2 weeks I went for a general check up at my local GUM clinic and all results came back fine. I organised for a DUO test to be performed at day 28 which I am due to get the results back from this week.
My worry arises from the fact that from day 21 from the exposure, I started getting very tired and having very little energy. This was in conjunction with a sore throat, stiff neck, swollen glands in my neck and occasionally feeling very very hot.
Seeing as this was exactly 3 weeks after exposure, could this be serconversion? It seems to be too much of a coincidence for it not to be.
I am so concerned about this, especially as there was some blood involved, that I have been struggling to sleep and eat properly for the last 7 days. I look and feel terrible. I'm terrified that my result will come back as me being HIV +. I'm so disappointed with myself as I had been in a steady relationship for 6 years (safe sex) which recently ended and this is my first and only encounter since and look what I've done!
If my test comes back negative (fingers crossed), you say that a DUO test at 28 days is conclusive, but other stats I read say its 95% accurate, this would make me feel that I am not clear of worry until retesting at 3 months. What are your thoughts on this?
I'm circumcised, which I hear reduces risk, but because there may have been blood present does this mean it's highly risky?
If the girl I was with was hiv+ it would have been a recent infection and therefore she would probably have a high viral load, does this mean my chances of contracting HIV are more like 1 in 10 rather than 1 in 1000?
I'm so worried here, especially with my symptoms, I know I just need to wait on the result - but any advice you can give me in the meantime by answering my questions may help ease the worry.
Golly - you're in a complete panic ! - Relax! I'm very confident from what you say, that all will be well.
The chances of the lady you had sex with is - you agree on a rational level - extremely remote. The further chances of her being a brand new HIV positive with a high viral load is I think a nightmare thing you've got going on - I just don't believe it.
You're circumcised which does reduce your risk quite considerably - if she was HIV positive, which I don't believe she is.
The overall chances of a male acquiring HIV from a female is something like 1 in 1000 or 1 in 1200 - if she was HIV positive to start with.
You've even catastrophised about the fact that even if you have got away with it and the HIV test is negative, you could still be positive due to false negatives!
You need to stop this nonsense. The actualité is that its most unlikely that she is HIV positive, even more unlikely that you have acquired it and frankly near impossible for the HIV DUO test then to be wrong.
I do appreciate your response. Thanks - just one more question I forgot to ask - assuming the result from the DUO test does come back negative, would this rule out the symptoms I experienced thus far being connected in any way to HIV?